Dear Madeleine,
I think I know the answer to this, but I thought I would just check my thinking. I work in the arts and have been an assistant to many executive directors. My experience is that once people get into that job they never leave, even when they should.
I have been in my current position for a long time, and I have been promised that I will be offered the executive director role in about eighteen months. In the meantime, I have been interviewing for other opportunities and was just offered an executive director position at another institution.
I would prefer to stay where I am. I love the people where I work and am familiar with the requirements of the institution. Moving to a new place would involve a steep learning curve, but it would also be an opportunity for a fresh start.
What do you think?
Torn
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Dear Torn,
I think you know the answer. Every single person who just read your letter knows the answer.
- Because you know that an actual job offer and signed contract is different from a promise of something in “about eighteen months.”
- Because anything could happen, and promises are broken a schmillion times a day. Your current executive director could decide to delay retirement. The board could decide to open a search for a candidate. The job could go to the daughter of the institution’s biggest donor.
- Because a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.
It’s just easier for other people to see the answer because they have no emotional attachment.
Go be an executive director, and enjoy the learning curve. It will serve to make you better at the job.
Love, Madeleine
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Madeleine Homan Blanchard is a master certified coach, author, speaker, and cofounder of Blanchard Coaching Services. Madeleine’s Advice for the Well Intentioned Manager is a regular Saturday feature for a very select group: well intentioned managers. Leadership is hard—and the more you care, the harder it gets. Join us here each week for insight, resources, and conversation.
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